In work with clients and life outside, there’s been a theme showing up around me so consistently that it’s starting to feel pretty important, and that theme (drum roll, please) is (crescendo) “space.”
Whether it’s taking some space, filling the space, creating space, taking up space, or leaving space open, lately this word has really been making itself known.
So I’m curious: What’s your relationship like with the space in your life? What do you do (or not do) with open space as it shows up…
Are you perplexed by it? Do you try to fill it up? Do you desire to carve out your own space?Do you hesitate to take up some? Is it difficult to give it to others? Is it a strength of yours to ask for some yourself?
So let’s start by exploring our relationship with open space. If you’re with me, imagine that (surprise!) today you are going to gain an extra room in your home. The room is large, unfurnished, and yours to do what you want with.
What feelings -physical or emotional- show up?
And where do you notice your mind going?
(This is not an exercise meant to curb whatever your first response to the scenario might be. Rather, this is an opportunity to learn more about your personal mechanisms!)
Along with some information on our inner operations, this exercise may highlight our current needs in relation to space. Right now, life might feel tight and crammed into the space you’ve been given and some extra square footage would give you the room you need to breathe. Or maybe the idea of more space is disorienting because there’s a desire to bring the stuff at the edges in a bit closer.
To go one step further, imagine you could not seriously start planning for this space for the next month. That’s right, this room has to sit empty and open for a few weeks before you even dive in with your preparations.
Now what are you noticing? Is this response similar to when open space shows up on your calendar, in a conversation, or- to stay with the metaphor- in your home?
Again, I encourage you to simply notice and carry with you what comes up, without having to fix, over-analyze, or even act on what your learn.
Next time, we’ll revisit this room in a different practice, using the space to help us explore what we would like to make space for in our lives.