Fill in the blank…
“Someone I love very much has died and now I feel ___________.”
What did you choose? Does your feeling perfectly sum up the experience of grief? How many other blank spaces did you need? Could you fill it up with a different word tomorrow? Next week? Next month?
Even as adults, when we hear the words “grief” or “grieving” we most often associate the process with sadness. That’s why we feel more than a little thrown off when we actually experience a whole non-linear or predictable range of emotions, from explosive anger to gut-wrenching guilt.
The fast approaching holiday season doesn’t just cue the lights and music, it can also trigger waves of grief for those who have had an experience of loss. If you know someone who needs extra support this time of year, reach out. Call a local counseling agency, check out the grief recovery site, or look for help on Psychology Today.
**If you are local to Towson Maryland, therapist Amy Gracey is hosting a Holiday Grief Support Group, this evening. For more information and to sign up, please contact Amy and firstname.lastname@example.org**
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing.
At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.”
― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed